BDSM books

Some time ago I wrote a post about some BDSM books I had purchased. I said that I would write more about them when I had gotten through them. It’s been a while since I finished those books. I probably should have written about them when they were fresh in my memory, but … that didn’t happen.

The books I have read are these:

Screw the Roses; Send Me the Thorns, by Philip Miller and Molly Devon.

SM 101, by Jay Wiseman.

The Loving Dominant, by John and Libby Warren.

These three books have been recommended time and time again by people on FetLife and other websites. I liked all three books. Some of the contents where the same in all three, so it could be a bit repetitive – not that that’s necessarily a bad thing -, while each book had its own style.

Screw the Roses; Send Me the Thorns, by Philip Miller and Molly Devon was a fun book to read. It has a lot of anecdotes, an easy language and quite a bit of descriptions and pictures. It doesn’t take itself too seriously and at the same time it takes BDSM seriously enough. I recommend it because it’s light hearted and it shows that SM isn’t all about grave moods, strict rules and pain in one form or another. It might help newbies to appreciate that even if the favorite color really is black and even if a lot of people scowl and snap in porn movies, SM isn’t that severe and there is more fun, warmth and laughter than most people believe.

SM 101, by Jay Wiseman, had a lot of facts and safety precautions. If his goal was to make sure newbies doesn’t do anything too stupid, he succeeded with this newbie. After reading his book I was certain that I wouldn’t want to try anything he had described, ever. It’s a couple of months ago now, and I think that I maybe have found a better attitude; perhaps the one Jay Wiseman wanted to instill in curious newbies. I want to try stuff, but before I do I’m going to read and learn, a lot, and Safety is my new deity. I will always put Her first.

I do recommend SM 101 to all newbies who wants to try SM and who hasn’t yet understood that SM and extreme sports often are compared for a reason.

The Loving Dominant, by John and Libby Warren was the last book I read. It’s had a lot of things that I had already read in the other two books. It had sections about safety precautions and consent, what to have in your first aid kit, how to build your toy box, how to make a good scene, how to find a submissive, different types of play and a lot more. It was an easy to read and informative book. I would recommend this one as well, perhaps more to dominants than to submissive’. On the other hand, the book was recommended to me by a slave who had read it and enjoyed it. It’s a book for people on both sides of the slash.

I haven’t read any BDSM books lately. I have to look a bit around and see if I can find a book that looks interesting.

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