These last months I have read enormous amounts of information on and about BDSM and all its aspects and varieties. So far I have only read from the web, but the web is full of information if you know how to find it. And if you always keep in mind that not everything you read is true or good information, and that you also should use your own good sense. I have read and learned a lot from websites, starting with Wikipedia and going on from there, but I have mostly read blogs.
When I joined Fetlife I got a bit irritated, because there was a humongous amount of information there too. What irritated me was that Fetlife announces that it’s like Facebook, only for kinksters, and it is. What it doesn’t make as clear is that it’s full of information. I didn’t join Fetlife when I first heard about it, because I wasn’t in a place where I wanted to talk to or get to know people in the kink community. I wanted and needed information first. Had I know about all the groups you could join and all the treads you could read about everything and anything, both kink related and not, I would have joined much earlier. But I eventually joined and learned more, there too.
Last week I got my first books on BDSM. Exhibitionism for the Shy, by Carlon Queen. The Sexually Dominant Woman, by Lady Green. SM 101, by Jay Wiseman. And Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns, by Philip Miller and Molly Devon. So far I have only read through The Sexually Dominant Woman. It’s a workbook on roughly eighty pages. Besides some safety information, it was nothing in the book that I didn’t already know, or felt that I needed to know. It was not the right kind of play and domination for me. Not because it’s written for women who want to dominate men, F/m (my imagination is more than good enough to twist words and situations to F/f if I feel the need), but because the situations described just didn’t feel right for me. For someone else, this might be exactly what they want or need.
I have also begun to read SM 101 and Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns. (Quite often I read more than one book at a time. Sometimes I switch from book to book, and sometimes I begin to read a new book before I have finished with the first one. Right now I read four books.) Both are well written and promising. I think I will write more about them here when I have finished reading them.
I can’t remember the last time I willingly read so much about a single topic, and it’s not even fiction!