Yesterday I joined FetLife, because, apparently, that is one of the things one must do if one is a kinkster of any kind. And now I know why. Not only can you get to know people with the same interests as you, in the same area, and the rest of the world, of course. There are a lot of events that I otherwise would not have known existed. I found a munch that I think I would like to attend. I think, because I’m not really very good at getting out and meet people. People are scary. Or no, not really … but still, yes, yes, they are. Getting to know someone new is not easy for me. To try and get to know more than one, at once … I don’t know how that will work out for me. Hopefully I will dare to attend, and find out.
At one point, during my search through the World Wide Web of all things BDSM related, I came across a site that told about the steps one could take on the road to finding out if you fit in the BDSM world. There was nothing definite about it; it was just one possible road. The first step was to read about BDSM and kink, read and think, and maybe write down your thoughts. When you had read enough in your own opinion, you could try to find a munch in your area to attend to get to know people who had been, or were, at the same stage you are.
Both steps are good steps, good advice, in my opinion, and … I don’t remember what came next. Probably something like getting to know someone to experiment with/play with/learn with or from. Yes, that seems likely. If you are so inclined, of course. Never do something you are not okay with; that’s one good advice I have read time and time again these last months. Never do something you are not okay with yourself, or do something to another person that they are not okay with, or try to make them do it. Everyone have limits, also when it comes to sex and BDSM, maybe especially on that point. Respect the limits, both your own and others. A no is always a no, no matter the circumstances.
Some other advice I have read when it comes to finding your way in the BDSM world, was join FetLife and attend a munch. It can be that simple too, and you can learn almost solely by talking with others. If you aren’t a control freak like me, and want to know as much as possible, beforehand. Not that it has helped me much, so far.
To sum it up; I joined FetLife, which I consider to be a good thing. And I’m thinking quite seriously about attending a munch, because I believe that I might be ready for the next step.
Time will show, I suppose.